Techniques to deal with anger

Anger is a physical response to a threat or danger. It's an emotional state that produces a chemical reaction; releasing hormones to help us deal with whatever is threatening us.

Anger, as well as fear, is a human emotion. It has several degrees and it can be used as a positive thing if we use those hormones to think how to deal with the danger that's threatening our well being.

Sadly, anger becomes quite out of control sometimes, leading to road rage, bad relationships at home or work, health problems such as high blood pressure or digestive disorders, etc.

There are people who get angry once in a while, and people who get angry very anger

often, and their anger ends up damaging them in one way or another.

If you feel your anger is starting to be a problem, then read these techniques and learn how to use them:

Check your symptoms before anger comes up. This way, you'll see when you are going to get angry and will be able to do something about it and you can apply other techniques. What does your body feel? What are the most common external sources for your anger?

Think before acting. You may feel angry and that's ok, as long as you act sensibly about it. Take a deep breath and pause before taking a wrong decision.

Analyze your inner feelings. Maybe you need to discover the real problem behind your attitude. Communicate with your inner self to discover what the root problem is.

React in a different way. There are alternative behaviors to yours, you can just walk away, take some time off, or breathe deeply before getting angry with someone. The fact that you are angry doesn’t mean you need to be hostile or aggressive, you can just state your feelings in words.

Use humor. Humor makes tension disappear and helps you release your pressure and anxiety. It also lets you see the situation under a different light.

State your feelings. Instead of being judgmental with people, say how you feel and how their attitudes make you angry. Use sentences starting with "I" like: 'I get frustrated when you don't follow my instructions'

Take a time out. Get some distance. Go for a short walk in the open air if it's possible, or go to a quiet place. It did work when you were younger, didn't it?

Avoid drugs or alcohol. Do not address a problem by getting another. Drugs are harmful and illegal, and alcohol is meant to be enjoyed not abused. If you use them to lower your anger level, you'd be replacing one problem with another one.

What to do

If your anger seems to be a problem for you and your family, you should seek for professional help.

Anger management courses will teach you how to connect with your inner feelings of frustration and how to cope with your anger, as well as you will learn relaxation techniques and more strategies as the ones described above.